From what you’ve written to me I can see, as an outsider of course, that you may have a self esteem problem, which leads to you feeling insecure, which leads to you projecting that on him, which makes him feels choked and wanting to run away. It’s hard to understand and remember, but we all want to feel free. You want to NOT depend on him to feel worthy as a human being (but you are), and he doesn’t want to be responsible for your self worth feelings. I don’t know if this makes any sense to you. But, if you really want your feelings to change, you’ll have to take control of your thoughts – and change them. You have to take the focus off the outside of you (meaning him) and focus on the inside of you. Notice your thoughts. Notice that you fight with him because you want something from him that he can’t provide – a feeling of security and self worth. I hope this helps, it’s just my 2 cents.
I love him but I still want her out of his house
My boyfriend of 5 years just up and left me and his 2 kids I haven’t heard from him and he hasn’t tried to even attempt a call. Lately before he left we were having some issues he would always accuse me of doing something which in reality I would be at home caring for my family I’m still trying to hold on that he does still care but it’s hard what do u think. Should I move on I mean he’s been able to call his friends and his mother but not me?? Any ideas on what’s going on am I going insane.
I think you should give it a little more time. Sometimes people just can’t handle their feelings and they run away. But he will be back, I’m sure.
Until he told me there is a lady he’s presently accommodating in his house who he’s helping out for now as she is an orphan
Dear Lisa, I know it’s not easy trying to have the right answers for everyone but you have been doing so wonderfully well. Well done. I dated a guy 5 years ago and everything was fine for 2years till distance e at a standstill. He claimed he waited for me while I thought he stylishly broke up with me and well I moved on. When he learnt about the new guy he was hurt and then officially broke up with me as I ‘cheated’. Now just last year,we started talking again and because I still had feelings for him and we were both single we decided to give it another shot. Though we still live in different ststes, I was willing to make it work this time around. At http://www.besthookupwebsites.org/tr/vgl-inceleme first i was ok but now knowing her staying is indefinite is getting me upset and angry. I told him I wasn’t ok with it any longer hoping he would look for a way to send her out, but he’s still insisting he won’t. That only on the condition I come live with him since I’m jealous. As a result of this, we haven’t spoken for 4 days. Please advise
I have no way of knowing what kind of a relationship he has with this woman, and I think you should find out for sure before you make any assumptions and get all upset about it. This story sounds strange though, I need more info…
Hi I’m Emma. I have been very sad for a few weeks because my boyfriend and I don’t talk as we used to. He used to start conversations and talk to me and make so many plans with me. Now I’m the one starting everything. He has no more time talking and shuts me out. I think I know what this means but I am just way to scarred to face the truth. What should I do? What do you think this means?